I had resisted the urge to talk about Mr Kolade Arowolo, the man who allegedly murdered his wife. First, because I do not know exactly what to make out of it and how to excuse such attitude. Second, I am bereaved and didn't want to write. However, I condemn the actions of Kolade in its entirety. No matter how bad things are, taking the life of anyone, let alone your wife, ranks up there among the worst of attitudes.
He recently revealed he was trying to defend himself, as his wife stabbed him. That could be true, but does that amount to retaliation? If he could stop Titilayo Oyakhire, his wife, from inflicting injuries on him, why go on to stab her? That is not an excuse at all. But I look at it from an angle.
An unemployed man, as Kolade is, is an unhappy man. And what could be worse than a lady being the breadwinner of a home? Make no mistakes, some ladies could annoy and insult husbands who don't have financial ingredients. We fail to consider that. That is not to say Titilayo was one of those ladies, but if you consider Kolade's attack claims and his friend's admission that he was "a gentleman who couldn't hurt a fly", then you need to look deeper.
Titilayo, on the other hand, was said to be cool-headed while another friend of Kolade said he used to beat up his girlfriends while in school. This makes things much more confusing. What is however not confusing is the fact Kolade has done a lot of bad by killing his wife. Were Titi related to me, only God knows what I would do to Kolade. He has to be punished.
But while women fight against domestic violence, they should also try let their ladies know how much it means to remain respectful to husbands, no matter the situation.